A very successful single lady once told me that she walked into a room where a couple of friends were discussing her, they didn’t know she was there. She shook her head, smiled and walked away. 

She also told me that she had a friend who talked bad about her, she never knew that she found out, She never mentioned it. She smiled and walked away from this friendship. 

She told me she had family who chose to shift her out of their life because she stood up for herself and God. And because she stopped crossing oceans for them when they would not even help her cross a bridge. She smiled, shook her head and walked away. 

So I asked her how she could just walk away from people that betrayed her while pretending to be her friends or family? 

She answered that every time she came to a crossroad like that, she had to decide who will be going forward on her journey with her. This showed her who she cannot take along with her. 

So she explained to me that you should never get mad at a person who betrays you, even in the name of friendship or family. Just gracefully bow out and enjoy your journey with all the new people God puts in their place. 20 years later I am still friends with this lady that used to be my boss. She is still single, has a great job and always happy. She has an unwavering love for God. She chose to be single because she knew that with her career she could never balance work, family, friends, a husband and God. She chose God. She is still going strong and greatly blessed. She taught me you can be happy being single. It's about you learning to be happy with yourself first and allowing God to lead your life.

Charles Smith